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Your Real Brain

Your Real Brain

You can’t talk about the psychological effects a person gets from their brain without actually knowing how it really works. I feel like its just nonsense to talk about something that you have no knowledge of whatsoever. So if someone is into psychology and people, you have to be into the brain.
Before I started thinking about psychology as a major, I never thought about learning the technical aspects of the brain. But as soon as we got into it, it intrigued me more than I would have imagined. But you kind of have to like it in order to go into that subject.. I’m just glad I do.
When it comes to the actual brain, its cool to see how it works. Just to know that things can repair themselves just to do what the brain is supposed to do, even when the necessary structures aren’t there.
When I start learning about the brain, I get the same feeling as when I look at a sunset; weird I know, but let me explain. I am absolutely amazed by anything naturally beautiful, such as a sunset. It’s awesome to think that this world is just making that without thinking about it. So when I learn that the brain has all these different compartments and processes for thinking and creating things, its like that sunset. Of course it would be odd to say that the brain doesn’t have to think about anything because that’s exactly what our brain does. But, in reality, its natural and it doesn’t get paid to do it.. it doesn’t get in trouble if it doesn’t do it right.. its not run by a machine. It is essentially what is letting us do what we do. We don’t control it, it only let’s us control what it wants us to. But the problem is that we don’t respect it well enough. We have blown it off and decided that we’re not going to make use of its abilities. Instead, we’re going to do everything that we can in order to seem like we are in control of anything and everything.
So when somebody is talking to us, and we don’t hear it right away, we say “what?” And then they repeat it. But if its within a certain amount of seconds, our brain says that its been listening the whole time, so here’s what they said. And then that’s when we answer right after we ask “what?” But your excuse is oh I was listening the whole time. No you weren’t! You weren’t paying attention and you know you. It’s the brain that gives us that leeway to recovery from our mistakes. Even when you don’t want to listen to something, you still hear it. And that’s when our emotions come into play. There’s a difference between arrogance and healthiness.
It’s not our fault that we feel the way we do. We can’t help it. The chemicals that are released, or not released, in certain situations are what make us feel angry or sad or happy or hyper. But ultimately, you really can control it. If you can connect to the way your body is feeling, and figure out why, you can change your feeling to a certain extent. As long as its healthy..
If you’re watching a boxing show, jumping everywhere, and mimicking the moves, you’ll have so much adrenaline running through you that if all of a sudden someone that you don’t like walks over and says something that you don’t like, you could probably punch them in the face and keep going for awhile. But if you have the realization that that is in fact what’s happening, you may be able to sit down, breathe and simply tell the person to go away. You can hide it, and not let it get to you if there is a threatening situation. It’s different, though, if you’re sad and want to hide it. You can’t just repress your emotions so much that eventually you won’t be able to help but explode. That is not a healthy way to calm an emotion. Some emotions are actually healthier to let out as they come. But, really, when you do it is the most important because if you put yourself in a situation where it will just make it worse and you know it, you can get in a different situation. You really can’t just let every emotion out whenever you want. That’s why we don’t scream out in a high school class room when we get an itch. We have learned and trained our brain by now certain rules to fit in our certain society. You actually do need to train your brain in a way that can make you a more healthy person. You need to be aware of how your brain works in order to do that. And you need to be open minded to the fact that you can’t control everything. And you need to be at peace with that.


Triggering Your Blind Spot

Triggering Your Blind Spot

Everyone knows that we have a blind spot. But we can’t tell unless we do those cute blind spot tricks with the dot and cross. So why don’t we ever notice it before? Well, your eye can’t really see it, even though you think that you can. Your brain actually makes that spot up. It takes in your surroundings and composes that spot as a guess of what it really would look like if you were to look at it directly. But that, I think, is not always true. After learning this, I realized that some peoples brains aren’t always the same. When it comes to mental disorders, I believe this blind spot has something to do with it.
If somebody has a disorder where they think that they see or hear things, we know that the mind is making it up. But it most likely is happening in that blind spot. The made up image is not right, bringing back other scary associations from the memory. Everything in the mind can be associated unconsciously to other things. You may not remember something that happened to you when you were ten years old. But it unconsciously arises when there is a trigger. And this trigger could be anything.
Personally, I see a shadow in my blind spot. When I move too quickly, it brings back a memory from a dream years ago that surrounded me in scary shadows. That movement quickly triggers in my brain that the shadow is a threat. It’s unconscious, so I can’t help it. That is what gives me my panic and anxiety. It may very well have started with that small blind spot.
So a good way that I have learned to slightly control it, is make up something else. Force your mind to think of something that won’t make you jump, but smile. Whenever I see that shadow now, I change it to a highlight; a bright angel watching over me rather than a dark demon trying to capture me. But that can’t always work. If I’m already in a bad or scared mood, it has the opposite effect. But closing my eyes can help. I pretend to shoot everything away and that I’m the star hero in a movie. It’s a little dramatic, I know. But it sure does work!
For less threatening situations, it would probably be easier to just forget about it. Let it make you jump for a second, then let it go away. Even though this one little blind spot could have started the chain reaction of other mental disorders, it can’t be the whole cause. But how can we truly ever know?

Abortion: Controversy or Psychology?

Abortion: Controversy or Psychology?

Controversy or psychology?
Actually, I feel like the controversy has psychology in it. The debate about whether or not abortion is right or wrong, has nothing to do with this article. I’m not going to say what side I’m on, but I will only talk about the psychological effects either side can have.
When debating about abortion, its mostly about the morality of it. But nobody ever talks about the psychology of it.
All traumatic times come with a psychological side effect; whether wanted or not. Abortion is no exception. When somebody thinks about aborting a baby, they obviously don’t want to deal with the consequences. Quite harshly, they want to kill their baby.
So even just thinking about it and not going through with it, leaves behind some emotional pain. Could the mother ever get over the idea that she thought about killing her baby? Especially if she raises her baby.. it could change the way she acts and disciplines her child. Especially if that one child wasn’t the only one. The mother most definitely would treat them in a different way, whether good or bad, than the others. Aside from that, the memories scarred into the mother could ultimately change the way she views and handles her life.
But how about on the other, and most obvious side: when the mother aborts her baby. When she actually goes through with it and may not actually know what that means for herself. She has to be there when the baby comes out. It has to come out. I feel like mothers aborting their babies don’t think it through as much as they should when making a huge desicion like that. The baby does come out, and you will see it and all it’s bloody glory.
Seeing any dead thing that was once living leaves a huge scar in the human brain. Maybe not on tv because we are so desensitized so it. But once that image comes to life, and you know it’s real, it burns in your brain forever. Especially if it was your fault. Can you imagine birthing a dead baby? That’ll do some damage.. nightmares for the longest time, seeing the image in other scenes, commitment and relationship problems, and fear of having another baby. The list could go on and on.
Overall, I think, without viewing the morality of it, the psychology of it can show all of the effects that just one decision, or almost decision, can take a toll on your mind and body.

Don’t Talk to Strangers

Don’t Talk to Strangers

My nephew is not shy with anyone. Stranger is not in his vocabulary.
I was talking with my brother and he told me that my nephew, if he woke up and there was a random person on the couch, he would ask them for milk. It’s cute when he tells it because he just wants milk so bad that he’ll ask the person on the couch. And, while hearing the story, we all know that the person on a couch is a friend. But my nephew didn’t know who it was at the time. This struck as odd to me.
It’s very scary to think about how sociable my nephew is. While, when you’re older it’s a shining aspect, when your a little kid, it’s different. It makes a person vulnerable. He will give anyone and everyone a hug and a kiss. It sure does make a person feel special when they haven’t seen him in so long. It’s amazing that he remembers! But I don’t think he actually does remember. He just wants everyone to feel loved and he wants to know that anyone can love him. Atleast this is what I think.
It truly is scary to think that if he were to ever get lost, he would have no trouble adapting to a stranger or their family. Nobody would ever notice that he wasn’t their kid because he would just act so conformed to it.
So I want to know how he got this way. My brother and his girlfriend are very loving, and my nephew is the only child. But I don’t think being an only child would make him love everybody. I think it would do the exact opposite; only wanting their mom or dad. But that is certainly not the case here. So if we want to look at nature vs. nurture, I don’t believe that we can go with nurture. Something had to of happened in the genetics. My brother and his girlfriend’s kindness could’ve gone overload in him, making a new kind of comfortability and conformness.
Then again, I guess there is a reason that the whole nature vs. nurture debate is so big. Because, thinking back, I remember them being, and still being, in a very small house with many many animals. And when I say many, it doesn’t come close to how many animals they have. So obviously my nephew had to adapt to all the new animals coming into his home. He absolutely loved naming them, and eventually became best friends with all of them. So maybe it is his surroundings that made him this way..
I feel like nothing can be rested on sole environment. Or, in the same note, nothing can be rested on sole genetics. I do think it is very interesting, though, how many strong facts can be presented to both sides of most  nature vs nurture debates.
With this specific one, I don’t think a study has been done. But it is a very personal topic, seeing how it worried me and still does worry me.
If there even was a study to be done, it would be quite rare to find subjects for it. I’m sure there would be quite a debate about it, and my guess is that they would find the “nurture” aspect to be the most prevelent. In any case, arguably, if something is “nurture” instead of “nature”, it is more likely to be reversed. But in my nephews case, this may not be true. He’s already been in and out of his learning stage. I’m afraid that the only change that could occur would be whenever he gets to high school and becomes shy. I don’t see that happening with this little guy! But in the world of psychology, I guess you never know.

Go Right!

Go Right!

Did you know that when you and another are approaching each other, you are both supposed to go to your own right? Well, probably not. But its kind of an unspoken norm in our culture. We drive on the right.. ride bikes on the right… and even walk to the right.
Most of us are right handed, yes, so maybe that’s the reason it feels so natural when approaching someone to walk to the right. But we always get those people that bump into us because they want to go to the left. Or sometimes, even, they will go across the whole walkway just to cross you on the left. Maybe they’re left handed..
I’ve never really thought about the writing hand of the person I’m approaching, when I’m approaching them. It’s not what’s on my mind at the time. But thinking back, that would be such a good explanation as to why they go left instead of right.
You would think they’d learn though, being in the American culture, where everything is based around the right and not the left.
While I am amazed at left handers, they are the same as the right handers. I don’t know why they amaze me so much. It’s just so rare to see. Almost as rare as the occasional painful collision between two walkers. Yes, I have had this happen more than once, I don’t know about you..
And it bothers me when it happens. It makes me feel uncomfortable when somebody tries to pass me on the left. It’s so far out of my comfort zone, that it may bother me the whole day if one person ALMOST ran into me, but I had to dodge them. And with a crowded school like mine, that’s hard to do.
But I wonder if they feel that same awkwardness when they are forced to go right..
It could be their culture, in fact that goes left. Or maybe to stop and let the other one pass first. Have you ever had that happen? When you’re walking towards each other, and neither one of you goes a certain way, and you both just stop right in each others faces..
Yes, again, this has all happened to me. Quite more than once actually!
So let’s just conclude that its in their culture, or not in their common sense at the time, when somebody goes the “wrong way.”

A Dog’s Life

A Dog’s Life

It sure would be nice to have a dog’s life. Their day includes all of sleeping, eating, playing and pooping.
I feel like it could be very boring at times, but if you think about it: no stress, no worries, no regrets or grudges. I mean seriously, have you ever had a dog? They hold no grudges whatsoever! So are they just that forgiving, or is that just how their brain works? It makes me wonder if there even is a filter for things like guilt, and other emotions. But I know that can’t be true. If they do something wrong, you can see it on there face, no coincidence in that.
When I leave my dog alone for just a few minutes, I can hear her crying for me. When I come back, she jumps all over me in excitement and just tells me how much she missed me. I know they can’t actually speak, but dogs express so much emotion, that they don’t have to.
So why is it that they will always come back to you if you do something wrong? If you spank their butt for Pooping on the carpet, they just want your love back.. you yell at them cause your in a bad mood, and they will eventually forget.. or seem to anyway.
So I think it’s their sense of loyalty and ownership..
Or maybe its just that they don’t think.. they don’t think about what they’ve done, and they don’t understand why you’re mad an hour after they pooped on the carpet..
They have no idea how human life is; they can’t think about it and process it like we do. They can’t give us the benefit of the doubt; they can only love us and cherish the moments they have with us.
Maybe that is what they do; live in the moment. So maybe we underestimated them this whole time. Maybe they can think and just prefer not to think hard.
Or maybe their ignorance is really bliss..
Their laziness, happiness, and willingness to almost anything.. It’s almost sad that they have no idea about the world around them.
But then again, they don’t have to have any idea at all. They just don’t have to.

Perception of Age

Perception of Age

It sweetens my heart to see an elderly couple walking in a park, or anywhere for that matter, holding hands. I’m not sure why though. And I know I am not alone. It could be my age and my views that make me see something special in that.
It could be that I know they’ve been together forever, been through it all, and still love each other and want to die together. And that very well may not be the case. I may be completely off.
Most people view the elderly as sweet and innocent. When in reality, they’ve been through just as much as we have… even more. They always say things like “oh it was always so much better back in my day”…
And I promise you all that that is not true. Nevertheless, they could have lost something worth living for not too long ago.. therefore making it actually seem better back then. But most of the time, they just say it to put down our generation.. to make us jealous in a sense.
Now, I loved my grandma so much, may she rest in peace, she was like my best friend. She lived in the moment with me, played imaginary everything. But she still did have things in her past that she missed… like my grandpa for instance. But I don’t remember her once saying a thing like that. And I look up to it deeply. She may have thought that it was, in fact, better in her young days, but she didn’t brag about it in front of me..
So maybe that’s why I see the elderly to be so sweet and innocent. But I know a lot of others do too.
I think that we all had that grandparent that made us feel special and loved. That’s the only side we ever saw of them really.. the super hero, cookie making, nurturing best friend.
I also think we all strive for what they have.. have the same destiny as them. We all want so badly to find our one true love and live with them forever, and die together like The Notebook. Even though we realize it won’t end like that..
They slowly walk hand in hand, gazing at the beauty of nature and each other. They can’t help but smile everytime they look at each other, knowing that there’s nothing in between them..
I think we find some sort of fairy tale peace or hope when we see it.

I Pick My Nose When No one’s Watching

I Pick My Nose When No one’s Watching


Oh come on, we all do it!
But I think there’s a point in our life where we realize its actually wrong. Or is there an actually point in time where we realize it? Maybe, maybe not..
But let’s start at the beginning. Picking the nose in public.. eating the boogers anywhere.. and sticking them anywhere..
I have a 6 year old brother and I’ve learned very quickly that kids respond more to reverse psychology. Even when its unintentional; Even when you aren’t wanting the opposite!
Kid picks their nose..“gross! Don’t pick your nose!” The kid giggles at your reaction, and keeps doing it. Then of course when they go to eat it, you try to stop them, horrified! But they find your horrific reaction even more amusing, and return to the digging spot to find more.
Now, I’m wondering why and when they learn the real meaning of all our reactions. Why they think its funny at 4 years old.. and then at 14, they know not to do it. There may have been an actual point where a friend, instead of a parent, told them how truly gross it is. Or maybe they just, over time, noticed that nobody else did it; the adults, that is. Their home surroundings and disciplines are what make them know what’s right and what’s wrong. It’s the maturing factor that helps a person know essentially when to “grow up.” But we know that there are plenty of immature people in this world. Maybe they just didn’t get the same basic nurturing as everyone else..
So back to the real problem. Kids first pick their nose because there’s an uncomfortable feeling up there. They eat it because they don’t know what to do with it. But as soon as they get a reaction, it booms!
The real way to do this is to show a tissue, show how to use it, and show what to do with everything. They need to know that they can get more tissues if they need it, but those tissues need to go in the trash. They need to know that, even if they do pick a little booger with their finger, to not wipe it on anything but a tissue!
Maybe, if we teach them before they teach themselves, they won’t turn our discipline into amusement, and we can eliminate all of the problems that follow.

Early Developing:

Early Developing:

So I was babysitting the other day, and when the parents got home, we got to talking and I found something interesting. Their little girl, about 9 years old, knows exactly what she wants to be. She wants to be a weather woman.
At first, it’s just interesting because its not the normal 3rd or 4th grader response.. It’s usually a teacher, or fire fighter. But then I realized how different this actually was. She is so interested by weather; she even records weather shows to watch them later.
I know that I was still in the “I’m gunna be a teacher” stage at that age.
So what’s really happening here? Or what did happen?
She may very well just be picking a random job, researching, and just being super persistent about it. With that, she could change her route very quickly, but seem just as passionate.. when she only wants to go so far in depth in her research, it comes off to everyone else as early developing.
Even that is really interesting.
But maybe it comes from what happened when she was younger, or just what she’s been hearing all through growing up. Maybe everything around her has told her to not know yet, to want to be a teacher like everyone else. But inside.. she truly knows what she wants.
Feelings vs. Surrounding?

Mind vs. Body?
She could feel older than she is.. or maybe just makes decisions faster. Because, as I have observed, her actual common sense seems at or a bit below average.
So maybe a certain part of her mind is triggered to working faster than the rest. And because of that, the rest of her mind lacks.
It’s interesting; all of the possibilities..
Another possibility is that it’s nothing at all.. or that it’s all pure coincidence. But something is telling me it’s not..

Flapping Your Gums?

Flapping Your Gums?

The gum issue has risen in school again! “Hey can I have some gum?”…”no that was my last piece, sorry.”

So.. we all know that this is, most of the time, a lie. Why do we have to lie about such little things? And why does it not phase us? Possession?
Well I mean, come on, if you don’t want to give out your gum, just say so. People, I believe, would much appreciate honesty over possession of your precious gum.. May be harsh, but I really want to know why we feel the need to possess over such small things.
I think that we view our surroundings as what we should be like. As in; If we see somebody else do it, we think its okay, or right.
But where does the first person get it from?
Maybe one day, someone obviously lied about not having gum. After that, someone else saw, hatched the idea, and thought “I could lie so much better than that. And maybe that is where we get our psychopaths, sociopaths, etc. Far fetched, I know, but it could very well be the beginning of unconscious liars. Liars of the big things that really make an effect.. once they can get away with the small things like lying about a piece of gum..